Give examples of unwholesome words you’ve heard from Christian friends when you were in pain. Give examples of unwholesome words you’ve uttered.

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Unwholesome words – “band-aid” words of encouragement that leads to nowhere.
Me – analyze and explain the situation, when what the person need is to tell his story.

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I think the thing that I have heard the most that Christians and I have said that doesn’t make anyone feel better is , “The Lord works in mysterious ways” and all things work together for the good of those that love the Lord. When you have just lost a loved one, it hurts and being told that the death of your loved one, loss of your job, divorce or assault is going to be worked our for your good, if you love the Lord, leaves you feeling numb, not better.